Making Communication Work For You and your connection

💝 Making Communication Work For You and your connection.

Many atimes, we emphasize that communication is essential in relationship. Many couple tell younger couple to ensure communication and avoid sillence treatment.

In as much as this is correct, not many people has gotten the benefits of communication even when they engage their partner. There are couples that experience more trouble, tense environment due to the same communication. When wisdom is not applied rightly, it can damage than make. Same with communication. When it is wrongly engaged, it can mar instead of make.

Productive communication in a relationship—whether romantic, family, or friendship—is key to connection, trust, and growth, no doubt.

The followings can be considered if we must communicate productively:

🦻 1.*Listen to Understand, Not to React*.

If your intention is to achieve result as you communicate, ensure you are ready to settle for understanding and not reacting. Reactions can lead to wrongs but listening to understand would produce more result and not insults.

⚖️ 2.*Dont be Bias*. Don’t don’t preconceived anything when being addressed or when talking to anyone. Don’t fix your heart on past event and what you know has been. Change is possible and narrative can change.

🪚 3.*Dont Interrupt*. In communication, interruption is a sign of immaturity and selfishness. Always allow the other person to finish. Don’t interrupt. Let your partner finish please; always.

🫂 4.*Show empathy*: “I hear you… That must’ve felt…”. These should be your response and not behave or sound like you have no feelings for the feelings of your partner.

💧5.*Get Clerification*. Ask clarifying questions before responding. Drop assumptions, calculations and possible intentions for clarifications.

> ✅ Tip: Under stand that Sometimes, people just want to be heard, not fixed. You might not be told so you can fix it but to hear it to their reliefs.

🛡️ 6.*Decide for communication not defense*. Use “I” Statements, Not “You” to Blame. Learn to say, “I caused it, I thought, I know, I believe, I guess” etc. Communication that blames is confrontation. Don’t be confrontational when you target meaningful and peaceful result.

✅ Tip: Say “I feel hurt when…” instead of “You always…”. Get the difference.

It reduces defensiveness and promotes honest expression.

> ✅ Tip: Own your feelings instead of accusing them for it.

🕊️ 7.*Choose the Right Time and Tone*.

Don’t bring up sensitive topics when one is tensed, tired, angry, hungry or distracted.

Be gentle in tone even when firm in words. Be skillful in talking if you desire to be heard and understood.

> ✅ Tip: Timing and tone often determine how well your words land.

❤️ 8.*Validate Each Other’s Feelings*.

Even if you disagree, acknowledge their emotion. Understand the human aspect of your partner.

Say: “I can see why you’d feel that way.”

> ✅ Tip: Validation doesn’t mean agreement—it means respect.

🤝 9.*Be Honest, Not Harsh*. Speak the truth, but with love. You can speak the truth without being rude. Avoid sarcasm, name-calling, or silence as weapons.

> ✅ Tip: Truth + kindness = trust.

For anyone to trust the genuiness of your expression, you must mixed truth with kindness. Do not allow anger ruin the whole thing.

📢 10.*Communicate Needs Clearly*.

Don’t expect your partner to read your mind, it might lead to understanding. Even the most intelligent can miss the point sometimes and to few factors.

Say: “I need more support when I’m stressed,” instead of “You don’t care.”

> ✅ Tip: Be direct but respectful about what you want.

🙏 11.*Learn to Apologize and Forgive*.

The phrase, “I’m sorry for…” goes a long way in communication. Sometimes, begin with it if your intention is reconciliation. Forgiveness clears communication channels.

> ✅ Tip: Avoid adding “but” to your apologies—it weakens them.

🔁 12.*Follow Up After Conflict*.

Reconnect after resolution. Don’t let emotional distance linger. If it does, purpose of communication is defeated.

Ask: “How are we now? Is there anything left unresolved?”

🚺 13.*Understand gender differences and temperament*. Consider the sex and temperament of your partner either known or unknown. There are extroverts and introverts. There are those who talk more and those who talk less. The funny ones and the hard ones. Approach matters and it determines conclusion of matters. Some also love to call and others don’t , especially Always.

🚫 Bonus On Communication Tips: *What to Avoid*

❌ *Avoid Silent treatment*. It endangers relationship.

❌ *Avoid Yelling*. Shouting disrespects and can escalate minor issues.

❌ *Avoid Comparing Your Partner to Others* Those others aren’t perfect either. Most times, flaws becomes loud only when closer.

❌ *Bringing Up Past Issues Repeatedly*. Especially when it is in the past and not still charactered, then, let it be in the past.

There are many nice people out there that their relationships could not work because of having a partner that do not try to understanding them.

Be different, try and understand your partner both in love or at work. Try and put yourself in their shoes. Try and understand the economy state of your partner. Try and know of possible pressure around your partner. Anxiety, tension, emotional imbalance , ignorance etc are reflective in our communication ability. That we must understand.

I hope this piece would be able to help your relationship and marriage or even friends and associates or colleagues? To make it more effective , share with them and let them also be a partaker of this, learn from it and adjustment of both of you becomes easier and would be mutually understood.

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